There are a few books that I read consistently each year. One of those books is “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Victor Frankl. He is a death camp survivor and teaches that where we have little or no control over the events that surround us, we have complete control over how we respond to those events. I remember the first time I embraced this concept. I had an overwhelming sense of freedom come over me, as I understood the power that I had over my own emotions, my feelings, and my responses to even the most challenging of events or circumstances.
Can you see the power that we all have? We were all born with that ultimate potential for greatness. We are beautiful and whole individuals. We have complete control over WHO we are. Isn’t that an amazing concept? This places full accountability of who I am to ME. I don’t know about you, but that is awesome. No longer will someone else’s actions determine how I feel. I can’t think of a more liberating thought.
The following quote touched me this week:
“Truth and Life are all around you. What matters is where and when you decide to put your focus.”
- Roger von Oech
I challenge each of us to look seriously at areas of our lives where we are giving away ownership of our emotions and feelings. Is it in our business success or failure? Is it always someone else’s fault why we haven’t experienced success? Is it because of my circumstances as to why I haven’t felt the joy of success? Am I always playing the “victim” instead of accepting responsibility and becoming the leader that we are all capable of becoming?
My Mom always taught me that when I fell off the horse, just get up and brush yourself off and get back on the horse.
One of my mentors taught me about the school of hard knocks. Run forward in life, not being afraid of running into walls. At least when you hit them you are running. Then get back up and run again. Never stop running forward. That is where the experiences of life become just that, experiences. Everything else is up to me.
This New Year, I challenge us to run, run with passion, run with purpose, just run. Take responsibility of your successes and brush off your failures. Stop giving away the responsibility of how you feel.
“If it is to be, it is up to me.”
“Life is a book, and you are its author. You determine its plot and pace and you-only you- turn its pages.”
- Beth Mende Conny