I'd like to take the time to talk about networking for a moment. It seems people jump on the internet and call themselves a networker and yet they have absolutely no idea of what that means. Just joining a social site and putting putting people on your friends list does not make you a networker. You see there are certain qualities you find in "real" networkers that are missing in 90% of the people who claim to be a networker. And when you reduce this these qualities to their lowest common denominator, the networker has one goal to create lasting relationships with like minded individuals.
The networker first and foremost understands that they must come out of their shell stop parroting others and be themselves. Releationships do not automatically happen, they grow. The networker is not interested in regurgitated posts about "The Secret", "The Law of Attraction" or the "Collected works of Napoleon Hill". Not to be funny but they have already read those books, they already are very diligent about their own personal development. They are not looking for individuals who constantly post rehashed versions of the same old same old. The are looking for individuals that they can connect with, do business with and have a friendly relationship with. The networker is not looking for people hiding behind someone else's message, they are looking for people who have their own personality, opinions and ideas and are not afraid to express it.
The networker never looks at a connection as a sale. Instead he looks at that connection as a possible member of his sales force. The networker is also looking at how he can become a member of his connection's sales force. We all have our spheres of influence, and there are people within those spheres that need "things". The networker is looking at his connection as someone who could possibly provide the needed thing to a member of his own sphere of influence. The networker is looking at how he can help his connection through referrals. You have to understand that networking is a two way street, you help your connections and they will help you.
The networker is committed. The networker is a "regular". You will see him around consistantly. Posting and commenting reading different content from different people. You will however not see them posting ads on a regular basis. The actual content posts will far outnumber the ads they've posted. The networker understands that networking and marketing are two different things.
Understand that marketing is all about the sale and that is what the marketer is focused on. Networking is about building relationships that will help everyone prosper. It's like two groups going out on a deep sea fishing trip. On the one hand you have the marketers with their rods and reels and tackle boxes. Can they catch fish? sure they can one at the time when the fish bite. On the other hand you have the Networkers who are out with a large trawling net. Which group will catch more fish and have an easier time of it?
You are only a networker if you are taking the steps to build a net.